Finding the Magic in Life: Family Spotlight
Tell Me What You Are…But as I spent the day with them, I remembered an old Spainish idiom which always rings true in my heart: “dime de que presumes y te dire de que careces” which, as I understand from my Spanish friends, roughly translates as “whatever you are making a fuss about (or bragging about) is probably what you are lacking or wish you had”.
Opening HeartsThis fascinating phrase causes me to look deeply and reflect on the feelings in my heart. It is a great reminder to listen to ourselves, and find what message we are saying to the world. It is often something we deeply desire for ourselves. In the case of this woman, it made me realize that the obnoxious comments about class and wealth were an expression on her own insecurity. With that compassion in my heart, the afternoon moved with ease. I took a kayak ride with her on the clear turquoise water. And I listened easily, with more compassion, to her stories. Together we enjoyed the beauty surrounding us.
Merging CulturesThis family’s story was that of much of the Caribbean: people from different races and cultures coming together and trying to build a better life for themselves. In their case, the woman is of Indian heritage from Guyana, raised Catholic, while her husband is of mixed white and black heritage from Trinidad, raised Muslim. They have built a family that manages to integrate their different beliefs and backgrounds into one harmonious whole. And they are dealing with a variation of what parents everywhere deal with: a moody 12-year old on the cusp of puberty and a 17-year old with a serious boyfriend spending the night, mixed in with concerns about other family dynamics, finances, taxes, property values, business performance, and their own relationship. In all this privilege and turmoil of emotions, I was reminded of the importance of approaching the world with an open heart; of finding the joy in each moment; and of granting a feeling of grace and acceptance for ourselves and those around us.
Looking Through Another’s EyesWe can take moments to see the world through another’s eyes. And in doing so, we might see their insecurity, worry, pain, or grief. And then, instead of just judging their words and actions, we might meet them with compassion. With just a few seconds to reflect, the world would be a brighter place. Because with a smile, we can start to transform someone’s day. I was like an outsider looking into a foreign world, and yet they pulled me into their confidence. By the end of the afternoon there was more warmth amongst all of us. And I realized that by accepting others, I am accepting myself. Sometimes that which we resist most is something we are afraid of in ourselves.
Be Kind to YouIn conclusion, without getting too deep, I am reminded again to be kind to myself, and open to the wonder of each day. And I send this reminder to each of you: you are beautiful, you are powerful, love yourself completely and let that inner light shine. Hugs, Kimberly
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